April 25, 2015

How To Use Genealogy Criteria To Improve Your General Communication Skills

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Make Yourself Understood

When I first began doing genealogical research I was participating in online message boards and mailing lists. One of the things that really became apparent to me early on was that I needed to be specific to make myself understood for the best communication results.

For instance, if I was in a chat room it was imperative to say for whom I was looking, where they had lived and what time frame. Subject lines needed to include surname, location, and possible years, etc.: “YATES, Roane, TN 1840-1918” is one example. On message boards and mailing lists, it was much the same, but I could also include more in-depth information such as collateral names, etc.

Who, Why, What, When and Where

I’ve noticed in this era of shortened messages via Twitter or texting, many people don’t make themselves specific enough when speaking verbally to one another. I know they are trying to be expeditious and get their thoughts out while they have them fresh in their minds, but really, you are short changing yourself and your listener to leave out some facts. The “who, why, what, when, where” of old should always apply.

So, if you are speaking to someone, even if it not about genealogy, make sure you include whom you are speaking of, the location you are citing, and give some sort of time frame at the very least. Example: “When I was in Howell County, Missouri in 1972 I didn’t get to see any of my Yates, Pentecost or Smith cousins because we were just passing through West Plains and I was just picking up a postcard for my grandpa Will Yates who was then living in Washington State, but was born in the Brandsville area.”

Many times, my conversations with family and friends just leave me more confused as they jump from one person to another. It might be their style of conversation, but my advice is, Slow Down and think about what the other person might be hearing. If you get to the end of your story and people look puzzled, or need to ask for clarification, you need to spend extra time thinking about how you present your thoughts.

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Herbert Hadley Harbeston 20 May 1910 – 23 Dec 2012

I may have met Herb and his wife Fran many years ago during my childhood, but my first real recollection of them was at the home of my great aunt Martha’s son Claude when we attended an after funeral gathering of family at Claude and Billy’s home in Tacoma, Washington. Fran was my cousin through the Yates family, her mother being Myra Yates who was an older sister to my grandfather Will Yates. Myra had married Joe Prantl 30 December 1908 in West Plains, Missouri.

tintypes

It seemed like the only time I would see Fran and Herb was at funerals. Fran passed away in 1996, just a couple months before my dad did in June. I began communicating by letter with Herb (he had hearing loss, so telephoning was out of the question) because my dad, for whatever reason, had given Fran some tintypes that my grandpa had brought back with him when it made a trip to Tennessee in the early 1910’s. I was working on our family tree at a pretty good clip at that point and since Fran had passed away (she too had been doing some family genealogy at one time) I asked Herb if I could get the tintypes back from him for our family photo records. He agreed, and we drove all the way over to Soap Lake, WA to get them.

We had a wonderful visit with Herb, his sister-in-law Tracy and Tracy’s husband Rick (Herman) Richardson, and my brother Dave and wife Kathy who had traveled along with us that day.

Through the years we have stayed in touch with Herb until his Alzheimer’s condition made things more difficult for him. At one of the facilities he was in years ago, he greeted us warmly and admitted he didn’t know who we were, but he was grateful that we had come to see him. I think that will tell you just how warm and loving he was. Herb was a centenarian of the first order!

English: Oroville Dam, CA from the air, high w...

English: Oroville Dam, CA from the air, high water unknown date (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Just a little side note: Working as an engineer and concrete inspector, Herb was involved in the building of the Oroville Dam in Oroville, California.

Herbert Harbeston Obituary

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1983 Article By Mike Contris – Olympian Newspaper Columnist

Bordeaux article by Contris

Mike Appreciated My Dad’s Remembrances Of Old Bordeaux, WA

This may be a repeat post, but I couldn’t find a previous one in my blogs, so I’m sharing the article by former Olympia, WA columnist Mike Contris again. As you can see it was first published in 1983. The reason I’m sharing it is because the Bill Yates mentioned in the article is my dad. My dad passed away in 1996; Mike Contris passed away in 1985. © Carol Yates Wilkerson 2012

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Ina Pentecost Smith 1913-2012

Ina Pentecost Smith 2001


INA PENTECOST SMITH 1913-2012
Ina M. Pentecost Hopkins Smith Passed away Friday, May 25th at the age of 98 at St. Joseph’s Medical Center in Tacoma, Washington. Many of her loving family were with her. She was born in Brandsville, Missouri, December 15, 1913.

Ina was the twelfth child of James Eli Shields Pentecost and Laura Francis Breedlove Pentecost. She married Chester (Chet) Lloyd Hopkins January 25, 1930 in Melbourne, Arkansas, where they had three children.

They were having a very difficult time during the Depression and decided to move to Alaska in 1939. When Chet arrived in Alaska he started working for the Alaska Railroad. He and Ina built a house on Nugget Avenue in Spenard, Alaska, where they had three more children.

In 1943 Ina married Roy H. D. Smith, who worked as a foreman for the Alaska Railroad. He and Ina built a three-bedroom home, a triplex, a duplex, and a small, one-bedroom house. The rental business helped supplement his income as they proceeded to have six more children, and enabled Ina to stay home and care for their children. She instilled a strong love of family, faith, and helping others who were less fortunate in all her children.

In 1963, Roy and Ina, with the five youngest children, moved to Tacoma, Washington to live and be able to help take care of his 85-year-old mother. Ina lived 49 years in Tacoma. Ina was always involved in her children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and great-great-grandchildren’s lives. She was the conduit for all information regarding her family and many friends throughout her life. Ina was so very proud of her children. She would frequently state, “I have twelve children, and they’re all natural!” They were all single births too.

She had 33 grandchildren, 58 great-grandchildren, and 29 great-great-grandchildren. She was preceded by husbands Chester Hopkins, Roy R. D. Smith, Gary Kassuth, and Harold Hopkins, son Roy Lee Hopkins, daughter Doris Richardson, granddaughter Lerrina Smith, great-granddaughter Shelcy Diebert, and great-grandson Ayden Beall.

Ina is survived by Ida Elizabeth (Kenneth) Riley of Grants Pass, Oregon; Mary Joanne (William) McKenney of Mt. Ida, Arkansas; David (Teresa) Hopkins of Kalama, Washington; Juanita (Skip) Beall III of Surprise, Arizona; Ina Jean Pearson of Coco, Florida; Darrell Richardson son-in-law of Tacoma, Washington; Carolyn (Richard) Turner of Homer, Alaska; Bonnie (Earl) Karr of Fernley, Nevada; Dorothy (Joseph) Fry of Des Moines, Washington; Perry R.D. Smith of Tacoma, Washington; former daughter-in-law Joan Smith and Julia (Steve) Pilgrim of Kent, Washington.

Funeral services will be held June 2, 2012 at 3pm at Weeks Dryer Mortuary, 220 134th Street South, Tacoma, Washington 98444. A gathering of family and friends will be held after the service at Gove Masonic Lodge, 3736 South Sheridan, Tacoma, Washington 98418. Donations strongly suggested to your favorite charity.
Pub Date: 5/30/2012 – Tacoma News Tribune

 

[Photo taken 2001 at a Breedlove’s cousin reunion in Renton. – CJW] Ina was my first cousin 2 X removed. We were ‘double cousins’ because her mother Laura Breedlove Pentecost was a sister to my G-grandmother Cerilda Breedlove Yates. We were also cousins through the Pentecost family. My G-Grandmother Mary E. Pentecost was a sister to Ina’s father James Eli Shields Pentecost. (My Grandfather Will K. Yates married his step sister Minnie C. Smith)

© Carol Wilkerson 2012